Authenticity in leadership is often boiled down to “just be yourself.” But here’s the catch – being yourself only works if you actually know who you are. And that’s where a lot of leaders stumble.
Self-awareness is the real foundation of authenticity. Without it, you might end up showing a version of yourself that’s incomplete, inaccurate, or – even worse – off-putting. People might not call it out right away, but over time, your trustworthiness and credibility start to erode.
The Four Quadrants of Self-Awareness
When it comes to what we know about ourselves, there are four key quadrants.
1. Discovery – You know yourself, and you know you know it
Self-awareness is high, and you own your strengths and limitations.
Meet Clarity Claire – Claire openly admits where she shines and where she’s still growing. Her team trusts her because she’s honest and invites collaboration where needed.
2. Dark – You don’t know yourself, and you don’t know you don’t know
Blind spots are in abundance but you’re unaware of them.
Meet Blindspot Ben – Ben interrupts and talks over others without realising it. He’s shocked when feedback points out his dismissive tone because in his mind, he’s “just getting things done.”
3. Delusional – You think you know yourself, but you’re wrong
Your self-view and how others see you are miles apart.
Meet Confident Cathy – Cathy believes she’s a great listener because she nods a lot. Meanwhile, her colleagues feel unheard because she rarely follows up or acts on their input.
4. Doubt – You think you don’t know yourself, but you actually do
You underestimate your abilities or downplay your strengths. Meet Underestimating Uma – Uma consistently delivers excellent work but hesitates to raise her hand for new opportunities, telling herself she’s “not quite ready.”
Why This Matters for Leaders
Being inauthentic about what you know – or think you know – about yourself can quietly erode trust, relationships, and culture. The risks include:
- Credibility loss – when your self-perception doesn’t align with reality, people notice.
- Reduced psychological safety – if you can’t own your blind spots, others won’t feel safe owning theirs.
- Weakened culture — when pretending becomes normal, honesty takes a back seat.
How to Lead with Authenticity
You can strengthen your self-awareness – and your leadership – by:
- Inviting feedback regularly. Don’t wait for the annual review to hear the real stuff.
- Checking your assumptions. How does your self-view compare to others’ perspectives?
- Naming your blind spots openly. Saying, “I know I can rush decisions when I’m under pressure,” builds trust.
- Backing yourself when you know you’re ready. Don’t let doubt hold you back.
Here’s the paradox: admitting what you don’t know – or what you’re still learning – often makes you more credible, not less. People want to follow leaders who are real, not those wearing invisible crowns.
If you want to explore your own self-awareness quadrants and build your authentic leadership muscle without ignoring who you are, join me for my masterclass next week. We’ll dive into your patterns, map growth opportunities, and equip you with practical tools to build trust, clarity, and confidence. Register below.
